Step 1 – Finding Her
You always hear weddings are the best place to find hot single women. Is it true? Of course it is. The sight of seeing two people completely in love gets women’s hormones raging. Offer her a drink at the bar, and you’re off to a good start.
Other places to find hot single women:
Dance clubs, birthday parties, supermarkets, bookstores, outlets, libraries, grocery stores, they’re everywhere… Open your eyes and use the force!
Step 2 – Stand Out
The first step is being noticed. If the girl you’re after is truly as hot as you think she is, she’s probably being chased by several guys already. It’s time to separate yourself from the pack, and be noticed. You might not be able to change your mug (without costly plastic surgery), but you can change your appearance. Here’s some easy ways to do so:
No need to drive the hottest car in the hood, but a nice ride can win you some bonus points. Remember to clean the car and vacuum the interior before your first date. Nothing kills the mood better than old smelly trash from McDonald’s.
Money to Burn: Ferrari F430, Bugatti Veyron, Mercedes Benz SLR
On a Budget: BMW M3, Porsche 997, Lotus Elise, Audi RS4
Broke as a Joke: VW Golf R32, Honda S2000, Nissan 350Z, Audi A4Get a watch. Why would you need a watch when your cellphone tells time and does a gazillion other things? Because a watch is a statement about your personal style. It also lets her know that time is important and being on time matters to you.
Money to Burn: Rolex, Cartier, Omega
On a Budget: Tag Heuer, Tumi, Movado
Broke as a Joke: Seiko, Timex, Diesel, Swiss ArmyThe most expensive item in your closet should be your shoes. They’re the foundation of every outfit, and she’s bound to check them out, so they better look good.
Money to Burn: Bally, Canali, Gucci
On a Budget: Cole Haan, Ecco, Ralph Lauren
Broke as a Joke: Sketchers, Kenneth Cole Reaction, Adidas, Puma
Step 3 – The Chase
Women love to be pursued. Lines are bad. The only one you should be using is “Hi, My name is…” Approach her with confidence, because women have a sixth sense for weakness. Don’t talk about your job, or how much you make. It’s the last thing she wants to hear (unless she’s a grubby leech, in which you’ve probably chosen the wrong girl). You’re trying to get the girl of your dreams, not a job at Google.
Keep the conversations relevant to the moment – the band that’s playing on stage, the clown in the funny looking hat, or a current movie that’s out. Keep the conversation less personal and she’ll feel less threatened. The is goal is to let her know you’re trying to get to know her and not into her pants.
Nice guys always complain that they can’t get the girls. Jerks get the girls. I admit they do. Jerks have a unique way of standing out, but they don’t last very long.
The key is to show her you’re confident without being arrogant. Stand up straight, and look into her eyes when she’s talking. Be a Gentleman. Help an old lady with her groceries to the car, or give up your seat on the bus to a single mother and child. Thoughtful and sweet guys give her hope that chivalry isn’t dead.
Step 4 – 9th Inning
A text message goes a long way after a date. Following a wonderful night, a simple text message to her cell phone with something as sweet as “goodnight, sweet dreams.” will have her melting in your arms. Follow up with a call two days later. Ask her how her days are going and mention something funny about the first time you saw her. This is your opportunity to ask her out on a second date.
When you see her again, compliment her, and make it something other than her looks. She’s heard a thousand times how pretty her eyes are. Tell her how funny she is, if she likes to crack jokes. If she’s trendy, tell her how hot her fashion sense is. Genuine compliments will be engraved in her memory forever.
Step 5 – Lock Down
When you’re out at the ice cream shop, prove that you’ve been paying attention by ordering her favorite flavor without asking. Drop off a cup of the Starbucks Mocha Frappuccino she likes so much on her lunch break at work. It’s the little things you notice, that show her how much you adore and want to be with her. Plus, it’ll make her putty in your hands.
Keep this up, and the girl of your dreams will be yours!
DAMNNN!!! THAT WAS GREAT! LOL. :)
hehehe….great
I need a better job if a Porsche 997 is considered “On a Budget!!!!”
omgosh!!! that was sooooooooooo cute! :D
Yeah…the on a budget stuff was far from my “on a budget”
I have a friend who just talks about how much he makes and all the “stuff” he has when he gets around women. It never fails and it’s SO DAMN ANNOYING! God I hate it.
The funny thing is, he doesn’t have a pot to piss in and lives with his parents. I think it’s just insecurity but it’s really unfortunate that he destroys any social interaction.
BTW…Yume – is that actually you in your avatar?
That was halarious. Yea I’m far from “on a budget” as well.
ha. budget. right. i’m on a bike. or shold i say bicycle? best i can do for a date is a dvd. or a picnic. =P
Oh that is so true about guys talking about what they do for a living. it’s so self-centered!
btw, I love the cute lego pics… especially the chewy one. :p
i LOVED this guide to death! it’s whitty, smart, and down to earth: practical. now have to know, terry. is this how you got your wife?
damn that was awesome! I wanna have money to burn status. :D
This has to be THE BEST article ever written on Kineda, even better with the lego visuals. I don’t even classify as a Broke as a Joke, but hey, most of this article is true :)
That was some solid advice ;)
Woah, this is awesome! I wish you posted this last month… I messed up BIG TIME on the last date I went on. =(
Getting a girl to actually give you attention so that you can talk to her is like grinding teeth. It’s damn hard if you don’t have jaw dropping good looks. :(
this is a great guide.
What’s with Darth Vader and Boba Fett? They have holes on top of their helmets.. are the keychain versions? hehe
good guide but nowadays girls have such a high standards. if u dont have the looks or that nice car than this is not gonna work for u.. the truth hurts :(
There’s some decent girls left out there. They do get pickier as they get older though. I think every girl I’ve met wants someone successful, or as they put it… goal oriented.
yup! goal oriented is right!
How do you casually strike up a conversation to introduce yourself at the supermarker? Isn’t that just wierd???
I’m so glad you mentioned about cleaning the car first. I went on a date once with this slob and it just grossed me out!
josh – try smiling at her first. If she smiles back you’re halfway there. ;)
I work hard to save enough to own an ‘05 M3 that I purchased for a little over 1.5yrs now. If an M3 is considered to be “on the budget” type of cars then I better stay away from these type of ladies. IF they going after the type of cars that I drive or how much I have in my bank accounts then they better bring something on the table *haha*.
Broke as a joke and lovin’ it.
The “women of my dreams” hoovered my
life savings and left me for dead.
They loved me only as long as the money lasted.
Ha!
When finding love, you need to set some plans. Love is abundant so why waste time finding it? Naturally, love will find you. Patience and Hope is all you need. Now, can you feel the love??? It’s all around you.
loooved this article!! haha.. the lego pics were awesome too!! you should get more articles like this posted, humourous with some truth to them! ^_^
Writing guides like this takes up so much more time than my other daily blog writings, but I’m glad everyone is enjoying it.
Stay tuned for Part 2!
im broke as hell :P downgrade it a bit for the poor mans guide LOL.
ooooohhhh! there’s a part 2? is this the next part going to be about how a girl should act to get a guy?
and seriously, terry, is this how you got with tammy?
I have some ideas about part 2 but you guys are gonna have to wait and see.
As for getting Tami, it was quite different.
Every girl is unique, and these are just things you can do that can’t hurt. :)
That was some nice writing! Time for me to head out and work on my dating skillz. :)
I’m seriously waiting for part 2. Hey maybe part 2 is about how to propose :P – 5 Steps To Marrying The Girl Of Your Dreams
Part 2 should be about how not to argue with your woman! ;)
that was funny terry. didn’t even know you had the time for that. not all of us have that kind of “budget” as you put it to get into a 997.
rofl
i guess im broke as a joke… :(
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Shouldn’t the ‘broke as a joke’ for cars be more like ‘Honda Civic or Toyota Corolla’ or possibly even Camy/Accord for a more family-oriented man?
Cause if the “girl of your dreams” adheres to the notion that “broke = 350Z” then i’m thinking “gold digger”
For watches and shoes too. Seikos is a pretty pricey brand. I’m thinking Casio should suffice.
what kind of precendent does it set when a women starts dating you because you are good at making horrible decisions with your money. having a two thousand dollar watch or eighty thousand dollar car only makes you look better to gold diggers and shallow social climbing vampires. nothing like making a connection/building a relationship on a foundation on bad consumerism
I don’t think it’s so much how much you make, or what you own, but how well you connect with the person. You could be a millionaire and I still might not look at you.
However, if I am attracted to you, and you have a good job then that’s a plus! Better than being with a broke ass scrub right with no goals right?
Rule #1 is to be yourself and let things happen. There’s some good advice in there that I think you guys shouldn’t dismiss!
I thought I was connecting really well with this beautiful girl the other day, but then she found out I was boring. I guess I forgot to talk about “everyday stuff” instead of “how many sisters do you have” –which didn’t work well.
And how dumb is it to give my number to her, right when she actually said she’d feel better if she gave hers to me.. that was before she lost interest I’m sure ;)
Well, keep trying eh? Thanks for the legolecture, you’ve invented a new effective tutorial format terry!
-skeff
this guide is for newbies who dont know how to bring out their game.
i wouldnt get your game out in public. she may get offended.
truly helpful… thanks haha
You got some things right, but many things wrong :P
Listen to yume:
“I don’t think it’s so much how much you make, or what you own, but how well you connect with the person. You could be a millionaire and I still might not look at you.”
That’s what it’s all about guys, creating a connection, or in other words attraction. This is not exactly acheived in the way which this article describes, although you got some things right, like being confident and complimenting her on something other than her looks (don’t do this that often though, it gets old really quick).
Though I think it’s good to be a bit arrogant, or better said cocky and funny. Try to keep the ratio 50/50, or be a bit more funny than cocky. Bust her balls every now and then.
Great article but a couple things to note from the comments posted… it doesn’t matter what you look like… women don’t choose to be attracted to guys, it’s a sub-conscious thing. If you have a hangup about your looks then you’re gonna radiate outward that you’re self-conscious and that you lack self-confidence – certainly not all the wonderful things girls like in a strong willed, in-control, confident kinda guy (girls correct me if I’m wrong!)
Don’t get me wrong tho, she won’t like to stand next to a guy who’s not washed for days, used a toothbrush, doesn’t know how to use an iron or just doesn’t have a clue when it comes to clothes! Buy some new clothes, ask the shop assistant for help, that’s what they’re there for! If you’re embarrassed, you haven’t got a hope of attracting a girl – remember, confidence.
While out use a cocky & funny approach with good eye contact (never approach a girl from behind or you’ll creep her out), it makes you feel good, makes them feel good but don’t overdo it, or you’ll find you become a lame joker real fast. If you’re out looking for a date, be prepared to get knocked back repeatedly, it’s gonna happen and it gives you the perfect opportunity to practice your approach and get it right.
All the best guys… have fun!
My 2 cents worth…
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hahahah!!!!
that s funny!!!
somebody will get married soonnnn!! invite me ^please i will do my best
Lol. I wish I could be some guys ‘girl of their dreams’. No such luck though :P
cool… Hehehe
bro!
that is so funny.. and the images are so cute!
O come on what happened to the good old morals of loving and going out with someone for their personality.. people are getting a bit to material these days.. if i was to fall in love with a guy it wouldnt b for what he has or what he looks like.. (who cares about career and cash.. every one has at least once in their life been a broke ass.. come on admit it..) its all about the personality a guy has that i would fall in love with..
check it..
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this is just jokes.
foradil…
news…
lodine…
news…
I liked the article especially because it was pretty consise and strightforward rather those lenghty articles/books sigh! except for the budget part ;)
I am sure looks, race does matter when we are trying to approach women in clubs etc because women have so many choices around them…but what the heck, keep trying! if you dont get the girl, we should feel she lost a chance to meet a good guy and may end up with some jerk! :D
That definitely was a good article. I particularly liked…well everything. Everything seemed true to my sense. Hopefully chilvalry isn’t dead.
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i have got to thank you for this guide… alot of this stuff is common sense yet too simple to understand
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very good tips! however the whole on a budget, money to burn, brok as ajoke thing should be adjusted wtih maybe 1 or 2 more categories! i can’t really say im on a budget since my parents bought me my first car..lucky me =]! I can understand teh cars in the money to burn, but after that maybe make a category for like “Decent 6 figure pay” for the m3, Porsche, RS4 etc. and then like Making Some Doe or something like that for A4, 3 series BMW, and so forht and the Budget parts shouldb e the 350z, Mustang GT stock and stuff and the last category should be called broke as a joke cuz that sucks just say best you can afford.
this should be for all the categories like the shoes, watch and stuff.
other than that great guide!
hilarious…first time RSS troller coming out of the closet now. the use of the star wars props is classic!!
pimpish
ok well im 15 and all this stuff u posted sounds tite haha…..my budget is tht good to afford tht stuff haha…..the problem is the girl i lik likes htis other guy who is two years older then her and she is totally obsessed with him….but at times i feel tht she may be leadin me on …and the guy she liks is a dumbass he told her that he didnt want to be with her at the biggining of the year because his friend liked her and he didnt want to get his friend angry….im in a lil bit of a hole…i see this girl for about 40 minutes everyday monday to friday and soemtimes ont eh weekends me and her and some other friends go hang out……and the other guy she likes doesnt go so its good for me haha …..if anyone had any ideas plz email me at sarangatang92@yahoo.com thnk you and good 5 STEPS TERRY …..
WOW… Were taking advice from a guy with an entire collection of lego star wars characters. I find that mildly entertaining.
I have a date on Saturday, so I hope this tricks works perfectly.
lol Lego.
Apa sie,lagi bingung neh,mw coba yg mana?gmana neh,kase tw dunk…
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great post dude, really means something for me.
Coll.. :)))
this is cool and very informative…. hahahha…
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OMG GREAT STUFF, BUT CAN ANYONE AFFORD THE STUFF THATS ON THE BUDGET? SERIOUSLY THAT SHIT IS RIDICULOUS!!!
Those “Budget” and “Broke as a Joke” lists still crack me up.
Ok, so far it is childsplay. Remember the movie “What About Mary”? Well, i am already dating a girl beyond that caliber. In the last 7 years she has turned down 3 other guys for marriage. She has the body of a 20 year old stripper, face of a movie star, one dissertation short of a PhD, manages money well, owns her own home, her dad is a minister and she has the same values/morals/standards…. i don’t want to be #4 to get turned down! We are best of friends, we travel and like the same foods/wines/music/movies….. I have all the toys: rolex, harley, fine middleeastern carpets, cars, boats, job, physical stature….. i have no clue as to how to land this one!!!
Any rocket science ideas out there?