Heading out solo to another party? If you want to be noticed, you’ll need to learn how to work the room.
- Time your arrival so that you show up about an hour after the party has started. Early party goers will inquire about why you’re not there, and they’ll really take notice when you finally arrive (be sure that it’s not an event that’s critical that you arrive on time).
- Mingle with the host, and other guests. Moving about the room and talking to everyone will give a great impression that you’re open-minded and not stuck with a certain clique.
- Don’t know what to say? Bring up anything that has to do with current events or celebrity gossip. Don’t always ask people what they do for a living, you’ll seem only interested in comparing your status. Do ask them what their interests and hobbies are. People will remember the ones that are genuinely interested.
- Hold a drink in your hand to avoid fiddling, stand with your legs slight apart and your feet pointing out and be sure to keep your arms uncrossed. You’ll project a more open and trusting image.
- Be well groomed. Try a fun new look that fits your personal style. Everyone takes notice of a trend setting man.
- Smile and have a good sense of humor. The positive vibes smiling and laughing gives off will make everyone around you more comfortable and you’ll be more approachable. Laughs usually attract a nice crowd and you’ll be remembered as fun guy to be around.
Reminds me of wedding crashers with a more subtle approach. Great tips, I’ll keep it in mind if I go solo anywhere.
“i think someone shit on the coats!” =P
Great tips Terry! I especially agree about smiling and having a good sense of humor. No one likes a party pooper!
Mingle Mingle. :)
Celebrity gossip and current events never fail. Try get to know them a bit more, maybe ask what their interests & hobbies are.
This isn’t a big tip but try to hold your drink in your left hand. When you shake hands (with your right hand) you won’t have a wet or clammy palm. I guess people would think you are nervous with a sweaty palm.
good idea ryan
i think my girl read this text before… she is always late… and I must waiting and waiting…. :D
I agree with everything except for celebrity gossip… maybe, maybe news but pop culture is not something everyone knows or values. Actually some people may look down upon you for knowing too much about britney spears :).
To me, the ice-breaker topic is the biggest challenge. Natural sociable people just have the knack at creating nothing out of something… I think the humour quality is really important.
Isn’t it a bit rude to be late on arrival?
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depends… usually it’s considered “fashionably late” unless it becomes annoying. As the article says so correctly, appearing late can make you immediately more interesting. Also, being early can have the opposite effect…
Showing up early can definitely have a bad effect, and its obvious that showing up slightly late is good, smile + good sense of humor is always imporatant as it makes you more attractive and fun to talk to, and definitely be WELL GROOMED, thats like the key to life, not just at parties.
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i totally agree with everything.i will put it in use.thanks
i like all of that except for the celebrity gossip, guys shouldn’t gossip… i see alot of guys act like jerks if they show up stag, instead of just being themselves they go straight to the alcohol and lose it
yet girls are intrigued by this… why?
Girls love jerks remember! ;)
Or they’re confusing jerk arrogance with real confidence. :)
thank you for the enlightenment gentlemen (terry & mikey)
still at a party i have learned to act like a gentlemen and confident people (especially the senoritas) will be attracted to that
is always good being funny
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